Audio PodcastLosing friends, romantic partners, and family members
In this podcast, Laura and Bernhard discuss waking up and its impact on losing friends, romantic partners, and family members. They share their personal experiences; they look at the different types of awakening, how different levels of being can impact a relationship, how to know if the relationship is for you or not, how individuation precedes a deeper awakening, tips to help you navigate this process if you’re experiencing this, and more.
In the second hour, they discuss the trap of forcefully trying to wake others up, what happens when you have different values than the person you’re with, what to do when your partner is an NPC trapped in the 3rd matrix, how to handle family relationships, and what to do when you wake up, and your partner doesn’t. Furthermore, they talk about the Agent Smith syndrome and hyperdimensional interferences coming through people close to you, the importance of letting go, crossing the guardians of the threshold of evolution, and more.
Show Notes Part 1:
- Waking up and its impact on losing friends and family members
- Different types of awakening (informational, psychological, spiritual)
- The Hero’s journey in the context of awakening
- Personal stories by Laura and Bernhard
- Trauma bonds and false-self-based relationships
- The death/rebirth process of false self to true Self
- The necessary phase of loneliness on the path
- What keeps people stuck
- Individuation preceding a deeper awakening
- Individuation takes you back into the world, but you’re no longer of the world
- How different levels of being can impact a relationship
- How to know if the relationship is for you or not
- Tips that can help you navigate the process
Bernhard Guenther & Laura Matsue
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In Part 2 (only for members), we go deeper into:
- Traps of waking up and how it can impact relationships
- The trap of trying to change others
- What happens when you have different values than the person you’re with
- What to do when your partner is an NPC trapped in the 3rd matrix
- What to do when you wake up, and your partner doesn’t
- Can a relationship work where one person is evolving and another isn’t?
- How to handle family relationships
- What happens when you don’t let go (rite of passage)
- Can you be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t have a relationship with God? (and you do)
- What to do when they have different spiritual beliefs
- The Agent Smith syndrome and hyperdimensional interferences coming through people close to you
- The guardians of the threshold of evolution
- How to know when it’s time to move on from a relationship
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When Following Your Dream Can Turn Into A Nightmare
And You Lose Yourself In The Process
People always say, just follow your dream and manifest your desires and goals. I’m all for it; go for it!
But rarely do people ask where their desires come from, to begin with.
Here’s my observation based on having worked with thousands of people over the past 15 years:
The #1 reason for their suffering & unhappiness was that they pursued desires & goals that were not their own but based on social, cultural, and parental conditioning or trauma responses.
Many of your desires are conditioned, influenced, and programmed by:
- Your upbringing and unconscious parental image
- What media, society, and culture tell you success is all about, and what you “need to have” or „be“ to be “happy”
- Your friends, peers, people on social media, or anyone you compare yourself with
- Mechanical biological drives (survival impulse, sexual impulse, and superficial sexual desire/attention-seeking.
Many of your desires, feelings, attachments, and behaviors can also be expressions of unconscious trauma responses from childhood wounding, lack of self-worth, and unconscious shame, resulting in trying to fill an empty hole within yourself via external means.
Don’t Believe The Hype And Appearances!
Not all, but many entrepreneurs, influencers, and celebrities whom people [maybe even you] look up to as role models [or you are envious of and shadow-project on] are, in fact, deeply wounded individuals who use their work, achievements, and success to cover up deep-rooted insecurities based on toxic shame and have created a false persona.
It is a trauma response. They are driven by this internalized toxic shame to become “super-achievers.”
They need to identify with external success, attention, possessions, and the image they have built around it in order to avoid feeling the pain of [unconscious] shame, which would shatter the false persona to the core.
But internalized toxic shame can also show itself in the “under-achiever,“ the „loser,“ the person wallowing in misery, addiction, poverty, self-pity, and victim/blame, projecting their suppressed shadow, envy, and unhappiness on anyone who is successful or wealthy.
Super-achievers and Under-achievers driven by trauma are two sides of the same „internalized shame“ coin.
They define each other and project on each other. Both are driven by the false personality covering up internalized shame.
The Way Out To True Fulfillment
The way out is to find your deeper purpose coming from your true Self [and not trying to perfect the false self] as a vessel for Divine Will that expresses itself uniquely through you based on your inherent talents.
The moment you copy/imitate others, just mechanically follow trends, or compare yourself to others, you not only lose yourself but the „matrix has you.“
Be honest with yourself, for the wounded ego will shut down your conscience and tempt you to act out of integrity [hence the rise of plagiarism on social media]
There is something ONLY YOU can provide. The Great Work of connecting to Essence [your true Self] is the gateway.
It’s the process of Individuation [not to be mistaken for self-actualization]
Individuation is a major theme for the next 20 years as Pluto has entered Aquarius.
It’s not always a pleasant process [and not everyone is ready for it], for it will ask you to come out of hiding and burn away anything that is not in alignment with who you truly are.
Godspeed.
Bernhard Guenther
Learn More Here:
Becoming Who You Are Meant To Be
How To Heal Toxic Shame And Not Feeling “Good Enough”
Your Psychological And Spiritual Survival Guide For 2024
Toxic Shame Is Spiritual Bankruptcy
“Toxic shame is unbearable and always necessitates a cover-up, a false self. Since one feels his true self is defective and flawed, one needs a false self that is not defective and flawed.
It is crucial to see that the false self may be as polar opposite as a superachieving perfectionist or an addict in an alley. Both are driven to cover up their deep sense of self-rupture, the hole in their soul.
They may cover up in ways that look polar opposite, but each is still driven by neurotic shame.
In fact, the most paradoxical aspect of neurotic shame is that it is the core motivator of the superachieved and the underachieved, the star and the scapegoat, the righteous and the wretched, the powerful and the pathetic.
Toxic shame looks to the outside for happiness and validation since the inside is flawed and defective. Toxic shame is spiritual bankruptcy.”
– John Bradshaw, “Healing the Shame That Binds You”
We talk more about it on our recent Cosmic Matrix podcast episode, “Your Psychological And Spiritual Survival Guide For 2024,” where we give an overview of what to expect in this new year from a physical, psychological, and spiritual perspective. We give practical tools and advice on how to align with the evolutionary forces and use them to catalyze your growth and ride the immense waves of change during this Time of Transition
By Bernhard Guenther, January, 2024
